Monday, 4 April 2016

 OBEDIENCE  ( take control of your life)

Being a member of the human society requires that we meet certain expectations. A lot of times it means giving up our dreams, casting our personal beliefs aside and embracing other peoples values in order to maintain our existence in the society. Doing this qualifies the individual as a normal member of the society. Many individuals swimming in the current of the majority don't see how much they submit to this gigantic force that rest upon their shoulders, proscribe the use of their intellect, control their limbs, and general body motor coordination. They allow popular beliefs and norms dictate the direction of their lives by giving power to these forces. Many bow to tradition, customs, religious beliefs and norms that don't support their growth and well being. Many have lost their sense of individuality to that gigantic force that controls their general organization. Civility is of little help to such individuals as they always go back to tradition. This force often operate to make the majority out of one individual, silence the idea of individuality, divide the individual into many different personality,promote lack of independence in the individual, which eventually leads to the vulnerability of the individual, lack of self, instability, and poor personal cognitive dependence ability.

Society everywhere is against individuality. The man who holds a personal belief separate himself from the belief of the majority and exercise his faculty of individual reasoning is often treated differently and such individual is easily recognized. Society want to think for you by allowing popular beliefs and opinions influence your action and judgement. Notice how a man who relies on his faculty of independence reasoning  is treated in the society. Society treat such a one with contempt, scorn and wait to mock at their failures and defeats. Listen to the popular feed-back a man who make his vision, ideas, and dreams known in the society. Listen to how much negative feed-back he gets than positive feed-back. "Be realistic" is a popular statement that seems to come out of the mouth of these communities of majority. Notice how their words is supported with facts and stories of those who attempted but failed. " things has never been done that way" is a popular chorus that a man with a new vision tend to get from those who are so used to tradition. But  men of undivided will, men that are motivated by strong vision, men of great dreams never sacrifice their passion for the need to gain acceptance and never allow mockery, contempt to quench the fire within.

Many great men in the society who chose to stand alone despite all odds and held on to their dreams have had their share of personal experiences with the society of collectivism. Listen to their stories, their pain,  their struggles and how eventually victory was won at last. Great inventors, geologist, astrologers, scientist, poets, musicians, models,.writers, photographers, sculptor, architects are those who stood against the men of their times and victory was won at last. Listen to the story of the Wright brothers who invented the aircraft, Listen to the story of Thomas Edison who invented the light bulb, Listen to the story of Rogger Bannister who broke the limited global belief about the five minute miles, listen to the story of Albert Einstein the physicist who developed  theories of relativity despite his difficulty in learning during his school years, listen to the story of Obama the first black president of America, listen to the story of Jesus the son of God , listen to the story of Joseph who rose into the position of leadership despite being a victim of slavery, listen to the story of the story of Martin Luther king jnr who fought for freedom and equality, listen to the story of all these great men.  Listen to their defeat and their eventual triumph. These great men have one thing in common, they chose to stand alone.

To be human is to express ones individuality and take a stand for what one believe in. To be human is to have a sense of self, to be human is to have the ability to think, feel, reason and act. To be human is to express ones unique personality. Having a sense of self liberate you from the unreasonable demand of the majority. Being in the majority prevent you from shining and being that human being God really wants you to be. Being in the majority limits your dream as it makes you dwell so much on your defeat and not on possible triumph. Standing alone brings out the light in you. It makes others notice your existence because it make you tap fully your potential. Learn to stand alone and let your voice be heard.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to God Almighty who is the source of inspiration and knowledge.

Written by:  Uwagboe Anthonia Peace.
 TORN APART (finding you)

Exercising some level of control over one's life is one challenge many individuals struggle or strive to attain in a world full of opinions and an easy map on how one's life should be lived. As a social specie of the human community protecting one's unique identity can be quite challenging as this often means going against norms which the majority obediently adhere.  Most time we get ourselves immersed in the majority that we lost touch of who we really are. We suffer from low self esteem because we fail to build personal power, because we have always learned to rely on others for our happiness and peace of mind. We fear to be in solitude, we fear making decisions on our own, we fear making our own personal judgement and our opinion appear to be inferior to us because we have learned to depend on others for all these.
To be human is to have a sense of identity. To be human is to grow in confidence and trust one's ability to make sound judgement. Many as a result of lack confidence and poor self concept of themselves judge things through the lens of the majority in order to gain love and acceptance of the majority. As individuals we are all unique and special in our different ways. don't be afraid of expressing your unique individuality. Understand that you have a unique part to play on this earth. Hiding in the multitude in order to avoid being judged based on your own personal opinion only limits your capacity to grow, trascend, .and become a better you. Understand that being in the multitude is a stressful place to be. Being in the multitude divides you into many parts and make the real you completely silent. Many become unsteady, unbalanced, torn apart, confused and gradually whittle themselves away in order to fit the perfect description of the girl on the magazine cover. Society without fail place you where they think you belong by giving you a label. The need to avoid or escape some labels and be in the societal good account has led many to sacrifice their personality, lose their individual voices, and has made many function below their potential. Many are torn apart and piece by piece they duplicate the personality on the screen and allow popular opinions and belief to guide their decisions in life.

To stand alone you must learn to accept some labels and avoid being offended by such labels. When you take offence in the labels or names they call you then slowly you will disengage from that very thing you love and because you seek acceptance and love of the majority you will take up their popular habit which are often destructive. They call you a clergy man because you love to preach the gospel, they call you a geek because you love to read, they call you an almanac because you love the Encyclopedia, they call you anti-social because you take non alcoholic beverages, they call you unreal man because you keep to only one woman,understand that whatever party you belong you will always be given a label. An almanac,  a geek, a clergy man,  an anti-social individual are nothing but opinions that are often used against those who have discovered their unique calling in life in order to draw them into the multitude.  Understand that the majority always have the advantage of number and that does not mean they are right. That an opinion is widely accepted does not make it true.
Standing for what is right and what is true often requires that you extract yourself from the majority and see things for what they really are. Who says nicotine makes you hot? Who says alcohol makes you social? The fear of standing alone is what makes many hide themselves in the crowd. In the actual sense standing alone does not mean being by one self. No one is an island. We all need each other as a social specie. Liberation comes from the discovery of self. When you discover yourself, your unique calling, your niche then you will develop confidence to stand alone. You will develop the strength to stand on your belief, Your conviction, and decision in life. Most times the internal struggle many encounter in life is a result of their unwillingness to accept who they are, and their unwillingness to accept the place of their calling in life. Many are swayed by popular opinions of the majority, they never start up a project, never finish up a project, they are confused,  discouraged, and many wait for others to tell them what they think about their dreams, their ideas and vision. Society respect the confidence. They give way to them because the are those who knows what they really want even when they stroke them with a label. Standing alone is at the heart of self confidence. When you lack confidence in your personal opinion,.your belief and values then the multitude might be the right place for you.

To many the multitude is a safe place to be. No one will ever question their opinions because it is the opinion of the masses. But hiding in the multitude only obscures ones individuality. Many have long lost connection with their true self. They dread solitude and seek company at all cost. Even when alone their electronic devices has to be working in order to feel some sense of connection with the world. Solitude should not be confused with loneliness. Every great man appreciate solitude because that is when they connect with their higher selves. Those who have discovered themselves and their place in the world appreciate solitude. The musician, the artist, the actor,.the pianist, the writer, the doctor, lawyers and many inventors appreciate solitude because that is where they connect and draw inspiration from the infinite mind. understand that you are unique being and you have a unique role to play in life. Hiding in the multitude only limit you and prevent you from transcending and becoming a better you. When you lack a sense of identity, then you will always identify yourself based on what people tell you.
To find yourself you must first discover your purpose in life. Lack of purpose and direction is what make many run to the majority for support and strength. Also to find yourself you must extract yourself from the masses and stand alone.

 Understand that as an individual your existence is tied to meeting needs. When you immerse yourself in the multitude you scatter your force in too many direction and you will not effect a significant impact in any one direction. Standing in the crowd makes your voice silent. The fear of standing alone can make you ineffective in life. To that man who feels the world is against him for choosing the unpopular way of life to you I write. To that young man who struggle for acceptance to you I write, to that young man whose dream is being ridiculed and termed unreasonable to you I write, to that young lady who struggle with inferiority complex to you I write, you can only grow, shine, and transcend from there.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of inspiration.
Writer: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace
We all have a space in our heart that only us can reach, that only us have the access to. This space is private. This space hold the treasure that lies concealed within our heart. Sometimes we being the owner of this private space and having the keys to unlock our treasure feel unworthy,  undeserving to use the keys. We act as interlopers, we apologize for owning the treasure that is rightfully ours. We skulk around waiting for people to permit us to unlock our treasures because we find ourselves undeserving. Sometimes this space as private and personal as it is scares us because we don't feel entitled to have them, we don't feel entitled to what belongs to us.
We deny ourselves the use of our keys as we allow doubt, fear take a big space in the corner of our hearts. Sometimes we make use of these keys, sometimes we throw them aside and sometimes we forget they are within reach. But these keys when rightfully employed awake our consciousness, give us a sense of entitlement, inflate our confidence, make us embrace the societies of our contemporaries as it unlock some personal power that gird us with strength to face our doubt and fear with renewed hope and courage. Below are some of the keys that can unlock that private space within your heart.

POSITIVE BELIEF: belief is a very vital key that help change our conception of who we are and help focus our consciousness to our dreams in life. Positive belief help grow our self confidence and make us treat ourselves based on that treasure that lies within us and not based on the undesirable circumstances that surrounds us. We tell ourselves who are we to believe in ourselves , who are we to use this key not because we are afraid we might find nothing when the door opens instead we are scared of the great light that will illuminate our very existence and make us visible in the eyes of many. Hence we wait too long holding this key until others tell us to use them. And then we realize how much power we have in our hands to make visible that treasure that lies concealed in our heart by turning this key through that tiny hole. Having a positive belief in ourselves help awaken our potential. The truth is positive belief is a vital key that help actualize our potential. It is our right to utilize this key. Do not allow failure, setback, difficulty, disappointment undesirable circumstances prevent you from using this key.

CONSISTENCY:  continuous effort - not strength or intelligence is the key to unlocking our potential - Winston Churchill. realizing our dreams or knowing that we possess enormous treasure within us is not enough. It is the consistent effort we make and our high level of commitment in bringing them out that matters because only then can our dreams or treasure be of help to others. Even when you are not operating on the high level of genius in the beginning, staying committed help build that genius in you. Making consistency a habit help you get there. Most time we get excited about the treasure locked within us but fail to realize it is through consistent effort that our treasure can fully be tapped. As a result of our inconsistency we tap so little from the vast potential within us and compare our results with that of our contemporaries and eventually begin to form a belief that they are more gifted than us. The truth is our talents can only be multiplied when we use what we already have well. If only you can remain consistent your light will fully shine.

HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM: having a healthy self esteem is very essential. Most time having low self esteem make us play small in the world. Instead of entering into our full possessions we scoop a small portion of it because we lack confidence in ourselves as a result of low self concept we have about our ability or capacity. God can never have  his work   made manifest by cowards says Ralph Waldo Emerson in his book titled self -reliance. I believe another term for low self esteem is deprivation because having a low self esteem deprive the individual from taking full possession of what is rightfully his to possess. Such individuals ask for little things in life and deprive themselves from reaching their full potential. They allow others to intimidate them because they are yet to know who they really are. Sometimes they gain consciousness of the treasure within them but they see themselves too small to claim them. Having a healthy self esteem is a vital key to possessing and bringing out the treasure that is locked within you. Playing small can't help you or anyone because it keeps your fortune locked and the world waiting.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to God Almighty who is the source of wisdom and inspiration.
Written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace.