Wednesday, 2 November 2016

                                       
ONENESS IN DIVERSITY ( part 2)

Societies everywhere is plagued with violent, cynical, brutish people who exist with us and whom we must learn to accommodate. These are people who are emotionally weak, intellectually impotent and who abandon reason for axes and cutlasses. These are people who lack control over their their limbs and motor co-ordinations and whose body is long disconnected from their brains. These are the people we must learn to accommodate, tolerate, and show through effective and wise choice of words impact the right standard of behavioral conducts. Yes conducts. We do not only communicate through the opening and closing of our upper and lower mandibles. Words electrify people when they are preached through our personal conduct and composure.  I decided to write this piece for a reason. This reason has to do with mankind reaction towards his fellow man whose style of worship differs from his own and as a result he views his own religion as superior by condemning his neighbors religion. Argument relating to religion has resulted into violence, massacre, blood shed and has taken the lives of innocent many along side. Religion was introduced to mankind to connect him in harmony with his fellow man but the need to feel superior lead many to heated argument during religious debate which ultimately result into violence in some unfortunate cases when one of the opponents happens to be existing in his lowest animal form.  

There are people whose phalanges quickly form a fist at any person who renders contrary opinion relating to their religion. These are people who are still existing in their crudest human form and whose mind as closed to new knowledge, whose minds are informed with biases and prejudice and are rigid to accept new information. These are the people that we share the world with and whom we must learn to understand and empathize with in order to exist successfully. When some stranger slightly push you out of sight do you engage in argument with such individual? When some touts hint some insulting words at you, do you wait and exchange words with such person?  Understand that these are people who have not yet come to themselves, who do not yet know their opinion but blindly follow the opinions of religious leaders without exercising their faculty of reasoning. How can such individual function successfully when his ability to reason is thwarted with mental prejudice, stereotype and biases? Some individuals of the opposite religion have lost their lives, have been beheaded and burnt to death by these group of brutes as a result of engaging in religion argument with them. These are people who only go in one direction and that directions is a result of the belief that has been incorporated into their subconscious by religious leaders which they hold uncritically and fail to question. Hence any contrary opinion grow in them seed of offense, anger, vexation of spirits and they retaliate the only way a crude being knows how to retaliate : They engage in physical violence and shed  blood and this gives them a sense of victory, a sense of commitment to their unique and separate God ( as they see themselves as good and obedient servant fighting for a just cause). But what justice is their in blood shed, violence and fighting? 

You see religion was brought into existence to strengthen relationships among mankind. Religion impact our being, our relationships and character. Religion although introduced for a just cause makes  and breaks bonds. It strengthens and breaks trust. Religion makes and breaks relationships, bring peace and war. But this dual characteristics aspect of religion lies in the condition of the minds of mankind. Many people don't consciously exercise their mind to think constructively. Many lack emotional maturity and accept every religion information from many religious leaders uncritically. This of course inform their emotions and actions when involved in some religious arguments. Since every  religion preach peace, the very act of violence is a result of the myopic view of the individual who lack control over his own mind. Understand that people have different grades of consciousness and that the large portion of the society are yet to know their own opinion, they are only a strenuous upholder of opinions that are passed to them by some religious leaders. Hence engaging in heated argument with such people in matters surrounding religion can end up badly. 

Thanks for reading this argument. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of knowledge and inspiration. 

Written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace.

                 HONOR YOUR CALLING

"To thyself be true.... Shakespeare".

 Do you feel out of alignment? Do you feel a deeper yearning? You see you are created for a purpose. You have a part to play in this world. There is a place where you truly belong in the whole, the place where you function well the most, the place where you most fit. I like to make use of this example, assuming you are a steering wheel and your part belong in a car, but instead you chose to function as a Tyre you will not fulfill your purpose in this regard, in fact you will not experience speed because your nature is not to make contact with the tarred road, rough road or the ground but to guard the Tyre and the whole arsenal of vehicle in the direction that it should go. It would end up being a total disappointment and a sense of satisfaction will be far from reach. This is exactly how many people are. They are out of alignment with their true purpose on earth, they are not honoring their calling, they are not paying attention to the inner signal, that subtle voice within. They lack a sense of direction because they have become the steering wheel instead of the Tyre. We are created for a purpose. if we fail to align ourselves to the proper place we are called to occupy on earth we will experience low satisfaction which many seek to reach by immersing themselves in consumerism. The happiness that comes from staying in our proper place can't be gotten from material things. People who have discovered and go after their callings are less concern about material things. Not that all these life necessity don't matter to them but when they talk they don't place emphasizes on all these things but place emphasis on what truly bring them alive, what excites them, what they intend to achieve in the sense of contributing positively to others with their talents, their gift, how a sense of contributing make them feel alive. People who lack a sense of purpose usually place too much emphasis on material things, their whole goal is to get the promotion, get an increase in salary which brings them a short term happiness anyway. To a man of purpose all these are added benefit that comes from the life that is experiencing a true sense of calling. Promotion, big salaries, new cars, awards, trophies, houses which many people are after only stand as a added benefit and not the means of happiness of those who are truly in their place of assignment on earth. When you honor your calling, you will achieve your full potential. 

Honoring your calling starts with listening to that voice within. There is this inbuilt inner compass within each of us that whisper to us the direction we should go in life. This whisper has a way of escaping through our fingers, legs, voice  our body and our actions. This whisper flow through our being with love. Hence they serve as hint to where we really belong on earth. While some people easily obey the voice within by aligning themselves to their place of calling others find it difficult to follow that path providence has found for them because they are afraid of being laughed at, are afraid of being called a weirdo, are afraid of being rejected, are afraid of being called crazy are afraid of the negative attitude of society. They are afraid to accept the place of their calling because of the challenges associated with going through that path alone. These challenges are often psychological torture  arising from societal negative attitude in accepting them for what they really represent . The three personalities that I truly respect for their courage in the entertainment industry are Derinle Ebun, Lagbaja, and Charly boy. These three personalities did not yield to societal negative attitude against them. There achievement in this regard is a heroic one. These three personalities insisted upon themselves. They embraced the nature and requirement of their talents. This of course takes a lot of psychological and emotional  breakthrough. Derinle's courage blew my mind the most as he shared  his experiences on Tv while he was being interviewed by a presenter. Imagine getting on a bus and every passengers started alighting the bus simply because you appeared abnormal to them. Imagine wearing a long heel boots, jackets of many zips and bottoms paired with crazy accessories and wearing a lengthy wig on your head and every one starts starring and keep  imagining if you really are normal. Imagine the kind of treatment Lagbaja experienced when he first came out all dressed up in a modern masquerade costume, imagine the way he was received by the member of his own family, imagine the psychological pain he went through when members of his environment sees his concept or idea as a crazy one, imagine the whole psychological and emotional processes that accompanies adjusting to the demand of his calling.  What about Charley boy? Imagine the whole accusation and negative attitude thrown across the internet against his kind of life style, imagine the emotional and psychological pain that accompanies such challenges.  It takes courage remain true to ones calling in such tough moments. It take lots of courage to endure such negative attitude from the society. Being courageous requires that we learn to stand alone and draw strength from ourselves. Being courageous require that we accept our calling and that internal light that guide us in the right direction. Being courageous requires we accept ourselves as different and unique individuals and as such expect to be treated differently. We are social being. We are species that seek to form bonds. Our nature require that we exist in relationships. The core aspect of our existence lies in forming bonds. Our first relationship in the word starts with our families who develop us and help us to form bonds in the society. As a result we have learned to follow norms and voices which are planted in our subconscious right from childhood. The voices of parents, siblings, spiritual figures, public figures friends and teacher lies strongly beneath our subconscious which form our beliefs, value and which guide our decisions. In every individuals exist that subtle voice, that divine compass which tend to instruct us to follow a certain direction in life. Many find it difficult to yield this voice because it tend to lead them beyond the mainstream, convention or orthodox as those numerous voices tend to shut that divine voice. Going away from convention often means standing alone, often means going through mental, emotional and psychological challenges as members of society or friends and families often act as obstacles in the way of fully expressing our true nature. 

The prize of greatness is attached to suffering. The nature of this  suffering is often time emotional, mental and psychological. Being courageous is an integral aspect of honoring ones calling. The willingness to insist upon yourself, to stand alone, to reason for yourself, to refuse to conform to norm is a heroic achievement. When you learn to think for yourself you grow in wisdom and understanding. When you understand that different kind of people with different grades of knowledge, nature of thinking, grades of exposure and understanding exist with you within your immediate environment and society at large you will learn to treat people with empathy and rise above chaos  and challenges that accompanies your nature of talent. Society often think they know what your duty is. They strive to instruct your every action and when you don't conform they treat you as an outcast or an Alien.  You have to insist upon yourself, let your true nature speak. Develop emotional maturity, develop courage because this is what you need especially when that path providence found for you is new. Soon enough society will come to accept you as you are and recognize your place among the independent thinkers. The major reason majority don't honor their calling is because they have not learned to think for themselves, they  let many voices cloud their sense of self. You have to express your true nature in order to experience meaning and purpose in life. Making the choice to stand alone despite opposition is an heroic achievement.  When you understand that this torturous and lonely journey is for the greater good you will experience a sense of purpose, you become one with the divine within and you will find meaning even in suffering emotionally and psychologically. 

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to God Almighty who is the source of inspiration and knowledge. 
Written by : Uwagboe Anthonia Peace. 

                                        
   THE POWER OF PURPOSE

"What we call talent is our assigned work on earth- Tonia".

As mankind we are interdependent creatures filled with limitless capacities and  unique characteristics to the attainment of a common goal. Life is structured in such a way that each of us has a part to play in it. And the part we choose to play in life is influenced by that internal signal. There is a plan in which each of us fit and until we make ourselves available and fit in that plan we will experience meaninglessness. Discovering our part in that plan give us a sense of purpose. The part each of us play in this plan enable us tap fully our potentials, enable us fully develop our talents, give us a sense of purpose and significance. The specific part we choose to devote our creativity permeate the entire parts or whole. The unique characteristics each of us possess direct us to fit into a specific part in this plan which ultimately give us a sense of meaning, fulfillment, satisfaction and joy. We are all creature connected by necessities. We all have needs and we are all required to meet needs. A car for example represents a plan. We know the basic function of a car is for the purpose of transportation. Within a  car contain several components or parts which have a unique structural characteristics and which are also interdependent on one another for the proper functioning of the car. These different parts that exist within a car are created for specific purposes and are  assembled to achieve a common goal. Now, assuming these parts are not aligned in their proper position within the plan, then these parts will not fully achieve their true potential, the full purpose of the plan will it be achieved and the effort to make them work in harmony will be frustrated. This is exactly how people are. They are not in their proper niche, hence they fail to experience a sense of purpose and meaning which is the reward of being in ones place of calling. 

Each of us as mankind possess unique characteristic features which yearn for expression. When we fail to position ourselves in our proper place in life our unique features will not be fully expressed. Your purpose is to act on that which lies within you. When you discover what lies within you your eyes will be opened to the plan you belong. By align in ourselves to our field of interest we play a significant role in converting greatness into wealth and we find meaning in our work. What we call talent is our assigned work on earth. Perhaps you love football, cars, books, fashion, perhaps you love to be a make up artist, perhaps you love talking. All these are clues to where your interest really lies. Of course loving football does not necessarily mean you have a talent for playing football in the field. There are many positions surrounding the game of football. Football as a game is the center which comprises several components ( positions) that ensures successful functioning of the game. The commentators, the players, the referee, the coach, the football presenter, the Keeper etc all share a common love for football as a game. This love act as the clue which draw them to function in a specific position where they truly express their gifts, where they find a sense of purpose and experience meaning in life. 

Now what happen when you are not connected to your true calling? You get bored, frustrated, and unhappy. When you align yourself to your place of calling you focus your power into something bigger. When you know your calling you see life in a new light, you see yourself playing a part in it. You begin to know the reason for your existence. Life excited you, you become passionate about what truly matters in life which is service to humanity. The man who has not discovered and aligned himself to his place of calling on earth sees promotion, increase in salary, new cars and houses as a bonus of his effort and not necessarily the reason he works. A man who has not discovered purpose is only concerned with what he can get and not what he can give. I do not mean "giving" in term of philanthropy, i mean in term of playing ones part in extending positive influence to the wider society through ones effort. Do you picture yourself being happy in a laboratory mixing chemicals? Do you picture yourself as a make up artist despite the fact that you have a degree in pharmacology? You see people place so much respect on some talents and despise other talents seeing them as less significant. The truth is that we are all connected and no one talent is greater or superior than the other. The talent that people look down upon are not necessarily small, they are only less recognized. You have to be true to yourself if you really want to experience meaning and peace of mind in life. When you are in your place of calling love flow through your effort. See yourself as a team player in that place providence has found for you. A successful team requires the effort of everyone and that part you play in that team has a significant impact in the whole. When you realize you are a team player in that specific plan your calling direct you you will realize how important and significant you are. Don't  look down on your talents, grow it, nurture it and fulfill your unique purpose on earth.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to God Almighty who is the source of inspiration and knowledge. 
Written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace. 
                                                  
DESPERATE FOR THE RING ( single with a purpos)

I decided to write this article for some genuine reason as followed 1. I am still single 2. I want to pass some knowledge to my single sisters 3. You knew what they say, never take advice from a single sister when you are married, hence this topic is exclusively directed to single sisters.  Some people may be offended by the topic " desperate for the ring". First let me point out my reason for choosing such topic. Many of us don't see "the ring" beyond a fancy adornment that beautify our middle finger and announces our status without us saying a word. This superficial knowledge of what the ring really represent is what make many fail to fulfill purpose in marriage. The ring is a symbol of unity, wholeness completeness and eternity. Since the ring symbolizes the Union of two people, then we may want to ask the question, Union for the purpose of what? Here is where majority of us are missing it because we lack purpose for our lives we are not concerned with developing ourselves, to prepare ourselves for what lies ahead of us in the future hence we do all the whole relationship thing wrongly and end up in bad marriages. 

Being single is seen as a plague in many societies. Majority of people have a bad impression about single-hood. If you belong to captain age group and unmarried some people tend to treat you with less respect than you deserve. The psychological and emotional torture that accompanies such poor treatment lead many matured single to make unhealthy choices which eventually lead many into disempowering relationships and marriages. To overcome all these relationship incidence is important that we develop ourselves by 1. Finding ourselves 2. Discovering our purpose 3. Building ourselves. 

FIND YOURSELF: before I go into detail with this sub-topic, I had like the reader to answer these questions personally.  It is important that you travel through your mind and sincerely tell yourself the truth. Being sincere to yourself by answering these questions is a step forward to embracing change and being that individual God really wants you to be. Who are you? What do you want from life? How often do you make significant decisions for yourself? Do you easily dismiss your own opinion and take up the opinions of others without reasoning? Are you really an independent thinker? Do you prefer giving the opinions of some spiritual leaders or sages in order to avoid being judged? How often do you exercise your faculty of independent reasoning? Do you fear being different among your coworkers or friends? How often do you dare to stand alone? What are your value system? What are your belief system? Do you have a low self esteem of yourself? Matured singles tend to experience so much pressure in many societies and the inaudible chorus that is expressed in the look and gait of many that they are surrounded by is "GO GET MARRIED". The large portion of people in many societies condemn singleness and overrate marriage. The truth is our minds have been conditioned in such a way that we see singleness as a threat. The mindset may have come from our basic nature as a social specie since as mankind we tend to form bond with people, neighbors, friends, family, business associates and since our whole existence is tied to forming bonds, we tend to feel cut off or alienated when we are outside the bond of marriage. Because we fail to find ourselves we fall victim of the consequences of poor choices. Because we have become too dependent on the opinions of public figures and the opinions of many in the society we fail to develop our faculty of independent reasoning. Thinking for yourself make you develop a mind of your own. But their is a difference between thinking for yourself and processing other people's opinion to arrive at your own conclusion. Exercising your faculty of independence does not mean you dismiss the opinions or advice of other people, it means you are open minded enough to listen and make your own personal decision. Understand that every individuals process their thoughts differently and since majority of individuals have not yet known their opinions their is a high possibility that their thoughts are or view points are about you are often clouded by biases, stereotype and prejudice. Love yourself, grow your mind, evolve psychologically, emotionally and mentally. When you fail to develop all these faculties you easily succumb to other people's negative view of you and when a man appears from nowhere you don't care if the two of you are compatible to some degree or share the same value system, you just desperately accept his proposal and cover up regret, pain, and depression with some motivation quotes on social media. But people are too smart for that, they will notice. The truth is you can't find yourself if you don't learn to think for yourself. Finding yourself means you have to be courageous to accept the real you. Many individuals today are clone figures of many others. They don't have power over their lives, their decisions, their actions. Finding yourself is the basis for being the very person that you have to be in life to feel successful at a personal level. 

" God will not have his work made manifest by cowards- Ralph Waldo Emerson".

DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE: you can't manifest that light within you when you fail to discover your purpose. You can't manifest that light within when you continue to make the crowd your shield.  To many the ring is a sign of protection. Protection from shame. To many the ring is a shield. To many the ring is where they draw their sense of self esteem and when the topic of singles or the unmarried arises in many religious gathering, streets, public gathering and many spots gossips assemble they feel esteemed in their own eyes and feel like they have just escaped from some embarrassment. Marriage should not be seen as a means of covering up emptiness but a means of blessing your partner with your gift. The discovery of purpose is an essential aspect of living a life of adventure. When you discover your purpose life become meaningful to you. When you discover your purpose and follow through you see yourself as someone who is significant, who is needed and someone whose action has significant impact in the whole. 

BUILD YOURSELF: to have power over your life you have to consciously grow your mind. Being single is a period to grow yourself . The period for self discovery, the period to grow in confidence, the period to grow in knowledge. Be willing to learn. All these virtues are not meant for a selected few, you have to earn it. If you fail to pursue all these life requirement for the successful development of your being the "wedding ring" will end up becoming a shield that cover up void in your life. 

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to God Almighty who is the source of inspiration and knowledge. 

Written by : Uwagboe Anthonia Peace. 

Tuesday, 16 August 2016

                   DON'T QUIT
Giving up our dreams appear to be the easier choice, the less stressful choice than holding on to them. The thought of giving up can be painful due to the feeling of guilt that accompanies such thought. Since we are creatures equipped with the ability and freedom to make choices we tend to device some strategic means to make our actions less painful. We come up with good enough reasons to help us cope with our decisions. We form bonds with others who feed is with information that support our actions. As a result of the feeling of guilt that accompanies the thought giving up their dreams, many consciously seek companies that support their decision to give up. They listen to woe tales, failure stories , exaggerated set back experiences shared by some circle of quitters which ultimately raise self doubt, and encourage them to give up their dreams thus making the giving up process less painful. 

Because our deepest dreams are often ties to our conscience many strive to overcome the feeling of guilt (that accompanies giving up their dreams) by blaming outside circumstances,their partners, their boss, unfavorable socioeconomic condition, their coworkers etc,thus excluding themselves completely from taking part in their share of the blame. Since quitting is less stressful but more painful due to the guilt that accompanies giving up a long cherished dream that give life to one existence many develop strategic means to manage the situation. Many form bond with some group of mediocre who lack dreams, purpose and drive , they pay attention to failure stories by seeing people who have given up on their dreams, they blame the challenges surrounding their dreams and completely exclude themselves from the blame in order to protect their ego, and they justify their reason for giving up on circumstances beyond their control. 

The truth is our action on this regard often serve as defense mechanism which help us protect our ego and make us not to see ourselves from the angle of failure or loser. Because the thought of seeing ourselves as failures or loses is painful and rob negatively on our self esteem. Before you give up, think about why you started, thinking should never be an option. Quitting may win you a lot of mediocre and so much comfort but it will never make you taste the sweetness of an accomplished dream or give up the opportunity to share the success stories of others who aspire to bring their dreams into reality. Avoid giving credit to doubt by exercising personal power which help you maintain a long commitment to your dream through difficult periods and times of setback. The truth is we all have capacity to stretch our mind and improve beyond our present reality. Integrating this fact into our psyche help us adjust our emotions and help us maintain internal balance when faced with change and stress it accompanies. The truth is that no amount of "excuses" can fill that void in you than your dreams and purpose in life. 

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of   knowledge and wisdom.
Written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace 


       THE  EVIL VEGETABLES

In many cities, streets, abandoned building and many street corners exist teenagers, young adults and old men who are victims of certain vegetables substances. These are dead walking men, lost people, people with cases of psychosis, schizophrenia, who as a result of long term dependent on cocaine and meth become street wanderers. Many individuals who out of the need to gain acceptance by members of some groups in many societies take certain kind of vegetable in order to raise their esteem and grow their confidence among peers. 

Vegetable in its native and unaltered state help in the cleansing and facilitation of bowel movement but man in an attempt to raise his esteem and sell confidence to his fellow man convert vegetable to alcohol, cocaine, ecstasy, Meth and more which is fellow man willingly buy use and blame other for the evil that accompanies his long term dependent on this substances. Many are trapped,frightened, depressed, lost and unsure of their next fix. The product of vegetable which once brought them into a state euphoria, excitement, has led many into a state of despair, disappointment, shame, and the feeling of abandonment and rejection fill the space of love and care as close friends have distanced themselves from them and some family members show no concern and empathy. The entire body system of some promising kids have been disrupted by this substances which they seek to regain by getting a new fix in order to remain functional and gain mental and physical balance. Every glass of alcohol and every intake of cocaine leads to the loss of control of their limbs. Family happiness are sacrificed at the expense of getting a new fix again  and again. Many have lost relation with people as they exhibit psychosis behavior and communicate with the spirit of cocaine in the form of seeing what others can't see, hearing what others can't hear and the feeling of bug bite under their skin  which comes from the impairment of their cognition. 

Despite the mountain of evidence surrounding the use of drugs and the statistics of cocaine related death, alcohol and meth related incidences which lead many siren straight in the direction of the morgue and jail many still fail victim of alcohol, meth and cocaine etc. The need to raise self esteem and confidence has led many to the emotional state of despair, regret, shame, pain as their hopes and dreams crash with every intake of meth, cocaine, heroine and ecstasy.  The believe that drug raise ones self esteem is delusional, it is simply a lie, an illusion. Drugs may provide you a temporal escape from some undesirable situations you are experiencing but it leaves lasting negative effect in you as shame, regret fill the space of temporal confidence it gives. Before you take that cocaine, that meth, think and be sure if it is worth the price of your life, your dreams and goals . Meth, cocaine, heroine and ecstasy are evil vegetables. You do not want to be another statistics, do you? 

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of wisdom and knowledge. 

Written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace 

         HOW TO SPOT A TRUE FRIEND 

In the course of our lives we come across some people who we are attracted to based on their approach, kind nature, intelligence, friendliness, general disposition, and because we thought in our minds they were good people  as a result of all the good qualities that appear visible and appealing to us, we decide to be their friends. Along the line, our relationships with them becomes shaky as a result of differences in personal interest, personal goals, view points, value systems, belief system, life experiences, level of exposure and emotional intelligence. Sometimes we are amazed by their level of inconsideration, lack of concern they manifest and their willingness to sacrifice the relationship over some argument and misunderstanding and then we conclude in our minds that they gave us a false impression of who they really are the first time we met them.  Realizing how easily they disengage emotionally from us we then begin to understand  how insignificant we have been in their lives and we begin to tell ourselves they are not good people and have been pretending all along. 

 Because as mankind our existence is tied to forming bond, to forming relationship with others, we feel a sense of regret, disappointment and we feel betrayed when these people we believe to be our friends start to show their true nature. The sense of disappointment, betrayal and regret we feel towards their willingness to walk out of the relationship is a result of how much we hold our relationship with them in high esteem. Unfortunately the connection these kind of people make with us is often not deep because it is tied to some selfish motives. These kind of people make a huge scene out of small issues, come up with emotional blackmail, the become malicious towards you just to find ways to leave because what attracted them in the first place is no longer coming. A lot of time we get carried away by their friendliness but we do not see how subtly they take advantage of us. 

As mankind our lives revolve around forming bonds. We cannot function effectively outside of relationships. We yearn for relationships because it is a core aspect of our being. We were born into families where our first relationship started, then we join many social groups where different activities are assigned to us in our various schools, churches, mosque, workplace etc and on a personal level we still form bonds with lovers and friends since as individuals relationship is an integral aspect of our existence, of our lives. Since on a personal level we invest so much emotions in our relationships, we feel emotionally injured when people who we thought were our true friends start showing their true selves. To save ourselves from aches and unnecessary drama that often happen to people it is important we find out the motives behind such people's friendliness and good behavior towards us before becoming good friends with them. It is easy to spot such individuals motives. Carefully listen to what they talk about, their motives is tied to where their interest lies. A lot of time these people form bonds with you because they want something from you, and they remain with you because they are getting something from you. Often time they approach you in a friendly manner because they want to sell things to you, they want you to be their financial buddies ( a source where they can lend money when they are broke), they want you to lend them shoes and dress etc, they want to know more about your family background and history, they want a gossip partner, they want to relive themselves of boredom, they want to know more about your personal life, they want to know about your financial statue etc. These reasons because they are too ephemeral or not deeply rooted prevent them from forming strong bond with you. A lot of time to cover their dark side they come up with emotional blackmail just to make you feel guilty and as a result you give more, open up more just to erase the feeling of guilt you feel.

 As mankind we often make certain decisions which often come back to hurt us and make us feel regret. The feeling of regret, disappointment, pain when a friend drops you because you are no longer useful to them or you are no longer meeting their needs is a result of your inability to make the right choice of friend. Friendship goes beyond keeping each others company. A lot of time people just view friendship as a means of escaping boredom which is why they just accept anyone that comes to them without getting to know their true motive. Friendship goes beyond keeping each other company, it serves a deeper purpose. The quality of our friends determine the quality of our lives and it has such a huge impact in shaping our destinies. Finding yourself is at the heart of self discovery when you discover who you are. Who you are, your purpose in life, it has a huge impact in the choice of friends you keep. Never underestimate the power of friendship. People with purpose are drawn to you based on what they seek to impact and not what they want to get from you. 

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of   Inspiration and knowledge.

Written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace

Thursday, 28 July 2016


                                                            BE ENCOURAGED
 
Having people that support our dreams and vision gives us the sense of significance, importance and self worth. It is a natural human desire to what to be recognized, noticed and valued. Unfortunately many make the desire to be encouraged a driving force that determine the level of their commitment and persistence level. They pick up their paint brush, surfboard, barbell, dance shoes, guitar, piano when they receive some good dose of encouragement but when the endorphin drops, they drop their work tools. When praise goes high their commitment and persistence level is high, when praise goes down their commitment level drops. Hence they give so much power to external factors by failing to develop personal power which gives them the advantage to fully take charge of their lives. 
The degree of our commitment and persistence to our works,.our dreams and visions should not be tied to the opinions of others but to our purpose, genuine reason, passion and the love that inspire us in the first place. Tying our commitment to the encouragement we receive can be injurious to our dreams and vision because when the praise stops coming or become less steady we become unmotivated, perplex and sad because we have tied motivation to the good opinions of others.  But that's does not mean we should nit appreciate encouragement when they come, it does mean  we should not depend solely  on them. We should not pick ourselves up only when someone encourages us, doing so is subjecting ourselves to the control of others.

 Regrettably majority of individuals are trapped in this mental condition. They expect others to appreciate, give comments, approve and recommend their works to others. When they don't get any of these, they feel unmotivated, unnoticed and gradually they lose focus of the reason why they started what they do as the number of LIKES and COMMENTS they get on Instagram, Facebook and other social media network take the place of genuine purpose. Am not suggesting we go around acting like human robots, despising encouragement from others all am saying is that the need for encouragement should not take the place of the very reason we started our craft. Sometimes I feel the need to be encouraged. Who doesn't? But I quickly get over this need when I remind myself of the reason I started writing. This thought alone gets me elevated and makes me overcome the feeling of discouragement. This alone has improved my commitment level over the years. Instead of focusing so much on others to encourage and notice you why not make it a habit to encourage and notice other? The result often is tremendous when you genuinely take this this up as a habit. When you make others feel significant and needed you too will feel significant and needed in return. Tell someone how great their drawing skill is. Tell a waiter he is doing a great job. Tell a Nanny she is a super woman. Visit the homeless children and show them love. Doing all these has a way of uplifting your spirit. Encourage someone today, the world has enough critics.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to God Almighty who is the source of wisdom and knowledge.
Written by:  Uwagboe Anthonia Peace.
remain blessed.
                                   
THE VALUE OF COMMITMENT

Many ideas, vision and dreams fail to materialize because the owners lack commitment a necessary factor that push dreams and visions from their abstract state into concrete reality where they take form and shape in physical reality. Having dreams and vision is not enough but committing fully to our dreams help us build capacity to overcome challenges, difficulties, and discomfort. For many discomfort, difficulties and obstacles are a signal to give up their dreams. But a conscious individual understands that discomfort or pain are are a integral elements associated to change and core are aspect of growth. a lot of time our ineffectiveness, inadequacy, incompetency, can be traced to lack of full commitment on our part. 

Associated with every aspect of change is the feeling of discomfort and stress but when an individual is aware of this fact he is able to stick to his resolve long enough. Our dreams and visions make us see world of possibilities where we only see the end results and where all forms of obstacles, difficulties and stress get cancelled out in our imagination. This process of thoughts put us in an excited mood and gets us to commit to our dreams. We excitedly pick up our barbell, our surfboard, our writing pen, our paint brush,our dance shoes , our guitars,  our pianos, etc and we inwardly believe that the excitement we feel at the initial discovery of our dreams can keep us long enough to achieve the result we hope to achieve, then the initial excitement fades away as our ability to commit become even harder due to some challenges associated with our field of interest. then many drop their barbell,.their writing pen, their dance shoes, their paint brush and come up with excuses to justify their actions in order to reduce the intensity of regrets, pain that is accompanies accepting mediocrity and giving up ones dreams. Excitement gives us kick to start our dreams but commitment help us actualize our dreams. Because excitement burns off when the effort we invest is not yielding the desired result we tell ourselves we are not good enough at it, perhaps it is not our calling but we fail to realize it is when we fully commit ourselves to our dreams that we have access to limitless creativity. 

 Being excited about our dreams cant make us endure the moments of frustration, suffering, pain, discomfort, and inconveniences but being fully committed enable us understand that to get out of our comfort zone we must be willing to pay the price, we must be willing to delay gratification, we must be willing to delay the desire to feel  comfortable, we must be willing to delay the desire to sleep, we must be willing to overcome the tendency to create excuses and must owe ourselves accountable for every actions. To express fully our talents, to bring our goals into reality a never ending commitment is the key to attaining such result. Having a half-hearted commitment have a negative impact on our talents and dreams as it makes us not to fully express that gift within us.   

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty Go who is the source of wisdom and knowledge.
Written by : Uwagboe Anthonia Peace
                                         
                                         
  FREEDOM AND DISCIPLINE


Despite our freedom to choose as mankind,  we believe attaining our highest values require a deep sense of responsibility on our part. To fully express our deepest, our talents requires freedom from certain indulgence which put a limit on our dreams and make us express half of the potential within us. To come out successful in any callings requires we stick to some higher values and this on the other hand means giving up instant gratification, overcoming whim of the moment, building a higher level of self control and overcoming distractions. A large part of being a responsible individual is being discipline and taking rational actions. Being a discipline individual requires one to be rational.  Every personality that has come out successful in their respective calling share a common behavioral trait which is discipline. They are people who have learned to integrate discipline into their daily actions. They finish up their project, their task,  their work boy because it is convenient but because it is necessary. A lot of time we wait for the convenient time before we start or finish up a project, we wait for the time when we will be less distracted, when we will feel less stress or no stress at all, when we will feel no fatigue,   etc, .and all these often serve as excuses why we fail in our different field of calling in life.

 The truth is that their is no such thing as a convenient time. People who have chosen to take conscious actions have integrated this fact into their Psyche and this fact help them maintain a high level of commitment and discipline. They are those who have learned to take conscious actions and commit to rational thinking. They are the individuals who experience a total sense of freedom and a feeling of liberation from self deceit which countless of mankind are subjected to and which has rob many of their integrity, self esteem and fulfillment in life. Man and woman I all walks of life seek comfort, avoid difficulties and surrender when they are faced with obstacles. Life presents us with freedom to choose. Abusing this freedom by pursuing instant gratification prevents us from fully actualizing the values deepest to us.
Contrary to the majorities belief,  freedom does not mean acting out at the whim of the moment or carelessly pursuing animal indulgence or suspending rational thinking. True freedom lies in ones ability to control, to be in charge of ones life,  to act in integrity with ones deepest value and that is what it means to be truly human. Because our deepest values is connected to our conscience, we seek means to be  free from guilt that accompanies the evasion of consciousness. Sometimes we suspend rational thinking and come up with excuses which make us feel comfortable enough to indulge habits that prevent  the full development of our talents,.of our deepest values. To fully express our deepest values, our talents require the freedom from indulgences which place limits on our dreams and make us express half of the vast potential that resides within us. Acting in congruence with our deepest values involves rational thinking which brings satisfaction, fulfillment, and peace of mind and that is where true freedom lies. With freedom comes great responsibility, and not irresponsibility. And this freedom calls for great discipline and commitment to our dreams, vision and talents.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of wisdom and knowledge .

Written by:  Uwagboe Anthonia Peace
   

                                

                   

                                                     
 ONENESS IN DIVERSITY


In this era of civilization and exposure many individuals still exhibit behavioral traits of our brutish ancestors who lacked education and moral compass but believed the only way to solve conflicts is by the use of axes and cutlasses. Their is this innate need to control, to dominate and strive for superiority which is the characteristics of those acting from the place of the ego. Liberation comes from the freedom from the self. Freedom from self enhance tolerance, promote empathy,  and help the individuals overcome anger, hate, hurt, vexation of the spirit that has the potential of arising in moments of conflicts of opinions. One of the characteristics of the ego is self protection, self defense, always seeking to be right even in situations where facts and evidences strive to correct its wrong,  deficiencies or inadequacies. Prejudice is the condition of the mind inspired by ego ( lack of freedom from the self) which affects the choice of mankind and the condition of the world we live in today. Freedom from the self awaken our consciousness to the fact that diversity is the core aspect of the world we all share and that no ethnicity, religion, race, language , culture is superior than the other. The issue of religious diversity, ethnicity diversity, language diversity, national diversity, differences is skin color have had great impact in the relationships of mankind through out history. Even in this era of civilization many still find it difficult to accept diversity due to their strive for superiority. Refusal in accepting diversity is acting from the place of ignorance which often lead to the build up of hate, resentment, prejudice, suspicion, blood shed violence, and even war. The rise of suicide bombing, terrorism can be traced to mans ignorance of diversity by those who choose to use swords and bullets instead of their minds. 

Religion has a dual effect in the relationship of mankind.  Religion which is one aspect of diversity has greatly imparted the relationships  of mankind across the world in that it has created love and hate , trust and suspicion,  it has created enemies and friends and it has brought about peace and war. But the negativity surrounding religion is  a result of the condition of some individuals mind who lack the knowledge of truth and who choose to operate in ignorance. As mankind we seek to form bonds and we don't see how gradually these bonds break on the ground of religion differences, during times of conflicts of opinions. Geography seems to restrict our thinking process such that a man shows high level of favoritism to his fellow man who share the same skin color with him despising those on merit list on the ground of differences in skin color. The freedom from self start with rational thinking. Emerson said " A man is not a thinker who is bound by prejudice, he is merely a strenuous upholder of his opinion". 

Man and woman have lost focus of the spiritual aspect of religion. These are people after religion, after doctrine and after the number converts from the opposite faith. Ignorance has led the company of many who seek religion rather than spirituality to erect a personal God in their mind and seeing others who share a different faith as serving an inferior God. It is no longer about God , it is now about numbers. Many have become mathematician in the area of addiction and subtraction. When one member of the opposite faith drop his religion and take up another faith, they are raised in their esteem and begin to see the faith abandoned by this new convert as inferior. This for them is a proof of the authenticity of their religion. When they lose a member to the opposite faith (religion) they take words out of context just to support their belief and stand strong on their faith. These are people operating from the place of the ego. The ego strive to defend, protect itself and never want to admit its short-comings.  When a man is bound by ego he fails to rise in knowledge and grow in consciousness since he fails to engage in rational thinking. Having the understanding that no religion is superior than the other (since every religion preach peace) takes us into the heights of spirituality rather than the nadir of bigotry.

 The world should understand that each of us as mankind are unique peace of the perfect whole. No culture , no language ,  no ethnicity , no skin color is superior than the other. Ignorance of this fact is the basis of all arguments, unnecessary confrontation, hate, resentment , intimidation in the lives of many. We should not allow melanin to suspend rational thinking. Doing so is subjecting ourselves to the control of the DNA. Being rational require we see people beyond their skin color, their religion,  their culture and nationality. We should not allow skin color differences, letters (language), and geography limit our capacity to think. To think is to advance in consciousness and to advance in consciousness is to truly live and to truly live is to accept the fact that all culture , all colors,  all ethnic group, all languages and all lives matters.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of wisdom and knowledge.
Written by:  Uwagboe Anthonia Peace

Tuesday, 24 May 2016

                                     
POWER OF IMAGINATION ( 2)

The world is full of inventions and great works but most time we fail to recognize the huge role imagination played in bringing those concrete thongs from their abstract plane into physical reality. The creative use of this faculty enable man to express their individual talents and shape the world in the respective niche they occupy.
We become defeated in our imagination when we lock the gate of creativity in our imagination by dwelling so much on doubt based on knowledge we have about how reality really works. The good things we enjoy in life were once subject to limitation but it took great minds to create alternative means in bringing their dreams into reality. Einstein said " knowledge takes you from A-Z,  but imagination takes you everywhere.  Knowledge is important as it brings our awareness to certain things, open our minds to certain dangers, enable us survive in the world but when we make proper use of this great faculty it enable us transcend difficulty as it challenges our creativity. Scientists were knowledgeable about the limiting power that operate in the air ( gravitational force) as it pulls everything towards the center of the earth. The idea of flying that heavy object in the air might have appeared completely in sane to the average kind considering the limiting power that operate in the air by bringing everything down but the inventors of air craft took it as a challenge as they employ their imagination and a solution was found. Aerodynamic force was able to put the craft in the air against the force of gravity.

When we dwell so long on how reality works we miss out on the creative use of our imagination faculty. When you experience defeat, perhaps it is time to get creative by employing your imagination. Imagination is a unique gift to all mankind and it is what separate us from others and it is what makes us us. Our imagination makes us unique in the world that is full of people. It is what separate us from our contemporaries and it is what enable us tap greatly into our inner resources and make us to the world around us. In our imagination we transcend obstacles and limitation. Reality on the other hand bring our focus to obstacles, defeat based in the knowledge we have or belief we hold about how things work. Majority of individuals see investing time in imagination as a waste of time yet they do not see how unconsciously they employ this tool in their day to day activities. Great men who have altered positively the course of this world understand the power of this great gift and they consciously employ this great gift.  It takes the discovery of oneself to set this tool in a productive direction. Imagination is subject to the law of cause and effect and it boom toward the negative or positive direction depending on what you continuously expose it to. Your thought content mixed with emotion change your imagination which create the feelings you. The man that pushes his dream, vision and ideas into the realm of his imagination sees beyond reality, sees what others cant see, hear what others cant hear and feels what others cant feel.

When we engage this faculty we get creative and we transcend limitation, defeats, obstacles that reality presents to us based on the belief and knowledge we hold about how things work in reality. knowledge is meant to assist us and not defeat us and shrink our hope of what is possible. Being creative entails looking for a way out amidst obstacles and that is what imagination does. Each of us hold some personal dreams that we feel is difficult to achieve but when we push our dreams into the realm if our imagination our capacities grows from there as it booms our creativity. Reality is nothing but the knowledge we hold about how things really work.  But sometimes being too rational or logical shrink creativity.  The Wright brothers contemporaries at the time might have had their dreams shattered based on the knowledge they had about gravity but the Wright brothers never gave up and eventually they discovered a higher force that is able to subvert the force of gravity and keep their dreams in the air.

Imagination makes us see through obstacles that reality completely obscure based on existing knowledge. Their  is always a way out in everything if only you employ constructively your imagination because that is where creativity abounds. Your capacity grow as you engage your imagination. Imagination stretch our dreams beyond the boundaries of reality. Engaging this faculty require the use of the five senses. Is your dream becoming an actor, a world class photographer, a pianist, an engineer etc? Now step into the realm of your imagination and add the five senses of touch, smell, sight, hearing and taste into it. As these senses develops your imagination becomes vivid enough and your creativity booms from there. Most time creativity is all our dreams need to flourish but when we dwell so long on defeat obstacles , it shrinks out creativity and doubt fear inevitably takes root in our imagination.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of creativity and knowledge.
written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace
                                              
POWER OF IMAGINATION

Imagination is the ability to create a mental scene, events outside of the perception of the concrete reality. As abstract as imagination can be it is the very force that shape the world around us. Imagination is the source of creativity and the source of change. Every new products that man ever created is brought into existence through the creative use of this tool. Everything that ever take a concrete form in our physical reality first took a abstract shape in the mind of some men. The cars, houses, phones, computers, Fridge, Aeroplane, helicopter, and every other inventions created by man first exist in the abstract form in the mind of some men with very strong desires who through the development of their imagination faculty experienced surge of creativity in bringing their desires into physical plane for the benefit of mankind.

When it comes to making use of their imagination majority of people see imagination as complete waste of time as empty day dreaming or fantasy that has no place in reality. This belief that many hold about the imagination faculty is what make many abandon the conscious use of this mental tool and as a result many of such individuals struggle with difficulties, experience failure due to lack of creativity in their respective field of endeavor. Imagination allows us see a new world inside of us. It helps build up our creativity. Imagination make use of the six senses of sight, touch, smell,hearing, taste and feeling.  When we push our desire into our imagination faculty and add this senses into it, it makes our desire strong enough and our dreams attainable because it grows our faith and belief as we gradually through perseverance and commitment develop our creativity. Adding these senses of hearing, sight, smell, touch, taste and feeling into our imagination help expand out creativity.  A lot of tine we make use of our imagination when we engage thought and we often favor the use of one or two senses.  Adding all the senses in our imagination makes what we imagine real enough and open up the channel of creativity as we develop further the use of all the senses.

Imagination is not a form of idle day dreaming, it is a vital tool that is necessary in creating new things or remodeling old things and bringing dreams into concrete reality. Everything outside of nature is a product of imagination. Many fail to make constructive use of this tool because they remind themselves too much of their present reality. They tell themselves to get real and thereby shut the productive use of their imagination. Being too mindful of what we go through in reality bring our consciousness to defeat, failures and inadequacies but pushing our dreams into the imagination faculty gives us the opportunity to see a whole new picture of what is possible and provide us with strength to see above our present undesirable limitations. Because it brings our focus to the eventual victory or success that is yet to come as we commit our life to what we believe in. The story of the Wright brothers is an amazing one. Despite the limitation gravity presented,  they chose to engage their imagination. Such limitation could have been a good reason for other to give up their dreams but they believed their had to be a way and they eventually got their victory. Developing ones imagination help provide solution by booming ones creativity. When you struggle with writing a book, designing a dress, constructing a poem, writing judicial lyrics or whatever you do at present do not give up on it. Ensure you activate the use of your imagination by adding all the five senses to it. Doing this you keep your dreams you keep your dreams alive and your desires strong enough to overcome obstacles or defeat that comes in the way of creativity.

The truth is that we all possess the capacity to grow transcend and become better at whatever we desire to achieve in life. When we focus so much on our present undesirable limitations we prevent ourselves from totally engaging our imagination faculty in the right direction. In writing a book,  creating a art piece , constructing musical lyrics, constructing a poem,sewing a dress,  imagination takes us through the whole processes. When we desire to achieve a thing for example constructing a poem or sewing a dress we usually see the mental construction of the end result we want to achieve even when we encounter difficulty along the way in bringing those abstract thought into physical plane. Regrettably many people at this point give up when they encounter difficulty in their first few trials. Not giving up on our desire to achieve enable us stretch our imagination and our creativity develops from there.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of inspiration and knowledge.
Written by:  Uwagboe Anthonia Peace.
                                         
THE ART OF WORK (2)

Work beyond being a necessary factor for survival of the human specie is also a channel through which man extend influence, form bond, build relationships and communicate with his fellow man in the society. Work serve as a vehicle through which man extend his influence into the wider society. Each of us as mankind influence one another through our work. Society works hard to build the independent man by exerting him to about upon whom society themselves depend for their individual needs. Human society continues to thrive through the ceaseless contribution of individuals who devoted themselves to work and meet the need of their fellow man. Society first builds the man and man builds the society. Some people may not consider work as an art but as a means to achieve an end, a means to put food on their table,  clothes on their back, roof over their head and more. But when we ponder deeply on these whole life necessities we will see how much art is employed in getting our needs met through the means of work.

The art of communication is one factor through which relationships are created. Building a good character,building trust, building a business relationship requires work on your part. To succeed in business demand that man focus on building a good reputation by integrating morality into his personality structure in order to build customer loyalty and customer chain in his business. People don't just buy products they buy reliability, trust , faithfulness, integrity, honesty in exchange of the money they pay you. People want to be treated nicely. They want to be treated kindly, they want you to win their heart and nit their money only. When majority of people think of work, they just see it as a means to meet necessities and not as a means to grow their personality and reputation. Society strive to build a man by making him seek ways to build customers trust,  reliability, loyalty in business. Man communicate influence through his work. People see him either as faithful or unfaithful, dependable or undependable,  trustworthy or untrustworthy,  through the quality of his products and services. As mankind our actions communicate a whole lot than the words we say. A wise business man understands that communication is not expressed only by the words of his mouths but by the action he takes and the result he produces. Trust, good reputation, reliability, are all a result of morality. The man that does not give equivalent services in exchange for the money he received is an unjust man and soon enough such practice will leave an impression on his personality and end up ruining his reputation.  Trust is one word that build business relationships and form bonds. A man that practices injustice in his business cannot form bonds.

 Man and woman in all walks of life underrate morality in business. But beneath every successful business structure there are elements of morality that stands as its foundation ensuring its stability and preventing its collapse. Morality is that stealthy force that drives the human society forward by making people work in the spirit of harmony. Businesses collapse for the want or lack of morality. It is morality that drives trust, reliability and loyalty In any business relationships that has formed strong bonds through the years.
When a man limit work as a means of making money or a means of sieving he fails to see how his influence help in the shaping of his prosperity. Work is an art and a great art at that. The art of forming bond, building trust, building customer loyalty takes work that relies mostly on how successful a man has integrated good moral code into the structure if his personality.  A good reputation is one feature of personality that embodies great moral virtues practiced by a person through the years. A good and successful society ,a good and successful  business corporation , lies on how the majority of its members practice successfully the art of work.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty and All sufficient God who is the source of knowledge and inspiration.
Written by:  Uwagboe Anthonia Peace
                                                                 
  THE ART OF WORK

Man is designed to work. To put food on his table, clothes on his back and a roof over his head, work is a necessary factor that help him accomplish all these.  Man and work are inseparable because by nature man is designed to work. Beyond having his basic needs met and beyond the need to survive man seek something greater. Man and woman in all walks of life are frustrated, tired, depressed, and many suffer from deep psychological torture because their lives lack meaning and as a result they lack peace of mind. Many are confined in hospital beds as a result of clinical depression, many are in rehabilitation centers as a result of drugs and alcohol related problems which seriously inflicts them and thousands of individuals in many parts of the world are taking their own lives as a result of  depression  , hopelessness and lack of peace.
I saw on Tv the other day the case of a wealthy man who left a suicide note containing the words " dear world, I am leaving you because I am bored....." before committing suicide.  Obviously the man was suffering from a serious case of boredom which his wealth failed to alleviate.  I believe loneliness is  the number one cause of boredom and the extreme case of boredom is what result into clinical depression.

 Many workers today who have good employment and receive good salaries feel separated from their work and as a result feel lonely and unattached to what they do because they do not align themselves to their place of calling in life. Many individuals today have a myopic view of what work really mean. The average individual believe the purpose of work is to make money only. This limited view of work is what make many do the jobs they don't enjoy and many employees today cant wait to go on a vacation in order to escape from the demand their jobs place on them on a daily basis. Work which is suppose to be fun, fulfilling,  satisfying has become such a huge burden for so many employees today because they fail to align themselves in their place of calling in life. Work can be a huge burden when purpose is missing. Their are so many miserable millionaires who feel so out of harmony with what they do. their are too many unfulfilled bankers, frustrated engineers, unhappy nurses who feel so out of sync with what the do because they lack passion and love for what they do. When a man properly align himself to the place of his calling work cease to be a burden.

A sense of purpose changes the view a man has about his work. Rather than a means to make money and survive, it becomes a means to add value.  A life of purpose is a life of meaning. Purpose is what brings life to work. Work is never meant to be boring but when purpose is missing then the individual only seeks happiness in making money by all means. Purpose enable us cope with the disadvantages that surrounds our work,hence focus our energy towards useful ends. When purpose is lacking life becomes unbearable and work becomes a huge burden. As mankind we exist for a reason and that reason is to find our purpose and play our part by aligning ourselves to the place of our calling. When a man can't lay his hands on the "why" he exist his energy is channeled in the direction of depression, suicidal thoughts and even violence as a result of lack of peace.Work gives a man a sense of independence and a sense of usefulness in life as he recognises himself as part of the force that drive the human society forward. Hence, this gives him a sense of contribution. Give a man work, the dignity of his manhood is restored. When work is taken from man by virtue of right-sizing, sicknesses, retirement or accident a sense of dependence strip him off his dignity of manhood such that the man sees himself as a burden to his family and the society at large. The thought of worthlessness and depression can lead such a man in the direction of violence, alcohol consumption ( in some cases just to protect their ego) and suicide. Hence work has a psychological influence in the life of a man. Work beyond meeting needs beings satisfaction and a sense of contribution to the man who aligns himself to the place of his calling.

Work is a great gift to all mankind but the  soul is tortured when it lacks a sense of purpose. When life becomes boring and uninteresting by virtue of e.g retirement it is always advisable to pursue a new course. A new dream. Life does not pamper the static person. It punishes such a one with unbearable lack of peace of mind . Many end their lives to find peace in the eternal realm. This is why great men keep dreaming and bringing old things into new form by improving their minds. Life is a boring place for the man that lacks dreams,direction and purpose in life. Are you old and bored? You can start pursuing a new course, go back to school, be a part of the relief society, become a philanthropist and draw nearer to the Infinite Mind for comfort and peace of mind. As mankind we spend a lot of time at work than In other things because work happen to be a channel where we draw income to meet with the necessities of life. Why then should a man choose for himself the kind of work that does not fit with his design, that does not make him happy and that does not give him a sense of satisfaction and contentment? Having a sense of purpose requires that we set new goals and realign our values as we advance in age in our dynamic world. What gives us the feeling of relevance and contribution is our ability to cope with change in a world that is rapidly advancing. Hence moving with change and setting new goals create in us a sense of purpose in our respective field of calling in life. Work is a channel through which purpose is made manifest and kept alive through continuous goal setting. Not having a sense of purpose makes work a huge burden. Man and woman in all walks of life as a result of lack of purpose are unable to channel negative emotions to a constructive ends hence they seek escape by indulging in consumerism, taking antidepressants and other drugs in order to escape the feeling of emptiness that feel and many commit suicide just to end the unbearable pain that comes from a life that lack meaning.

Man is designed to work. His physical and cognitive make up demands that he works In order to maintain his existence and survival. For man to enjoy his escape from extinction by virtue of surviving he needs a deeper sense of self. He needs purpose. Purpose enable man finds his niche and enjoy his work. For man to enjoy his work he needs to set new goals as he advances since change is the inevitable element that sustain and drive evolution.  Hence work, purpose and the need to set new goals help in the shaping of man's mind and enable man to act as a creative force in the advancement of the world he occupies. burdom is a threat to all mankind.  When man does not involve himself in any activity , when a man is not in his place of calling and when man fails to create new goals and continue to stick to the convenient or tradition, then he will be faced with this emotional threat in life. A sense of purpose help us achieve psychological balance and enjoy inner peace.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to the Almighty God who is the source of inspiration and knowledge.
Written by: Uwagboe Anthonia Peace

Monday, 4 April 2016

                               
 OBEDIENCE  ( take control of your life)

Being a member of the human society requires that we meet certain expectations. A lot of times it means giving up our dreams, casting our personal beliefs aside and embracing other peoples values in order to maintain our existence in the society. Doing this qualifies the individual as a normal member of the society. Many individuals swimming in the current of the majority don't see how much they submit to this gigantic force that rest upon their shoulders, proscribe the use of their intellect, control their limbs, and general body motor coordination. They allow popular beliefs and norms dictate the direction of their lives by giving power to these forces. Many bow to tradition, customs, religious beliefs and norms that don't support their growth and well being. Many have lost their sense of individuality to that gigantic force that controls their general organization. Civility is of little help to such individuals as they always go back to tradition. This force often operate to make the majority out of one individual, silence the idea of individuality, divide the individual into many different personality,promote lack of independence in the individual, which eventually leads to the vulnerability of the individual, lack of self, instability, and poor personal cognitive dependence ability.

Society everywhere is against individuality. The man who holds a personal belief separate himself from the belief of the majority and exercise his faculty of individual reasoning is often treated differently and such individual is easily recognized. Society want to think for you by allowing popular beliefs and opinions influence your action and judgement. Notice how a man who relies on his faculty of independence reasoning  is treated in the society. Society treat such a one with contempt, scorn and wait to mock at their failures and defeats. Listen to the popular feed-back a man who make his vision, ideas, and dreams known in the society. Listen to how much negative feed-back he gets than positive feed-back. "Be realistic" is a popular statement that seems to come out of the mouth of these communities of majority. Notice how their words is supported with facts and stories of those who attempted but failed. " things has never been done that way" is a popular chorus that a man with a new vision tend to get from those who are so used to tradition. But  men of undivided will, men that are motivated by strong vision, men of great dreams never sacrifice their passion for the need to gain acceptance and never allow mockery, contempt to quench the fire within.

Many great men in the society who chose to stand alone despite all odds and held on to their dreams have had their share of personal experiences with the society of collectivism. Listen to their stories, their pain,  their struggles and how eventually victory was won at last. Great inventors, geologist, astrologers, scientist, poets, musicians, models,.writers, photographers, sculptor, architects are those who stood against the men of their times and victory was won at last. Listen to the story of the Wright brothers who invented the aircraft, Listen to the story of Thomas Edison who invented the light bulb, Listen to the story of Rogger Bannister who broke the limited global belief about the five minute miles, listen to the story of Albert Einstein the physicist who developed  theories of relativity despite his difficulty in learning during his school years, listen to the story of Obama the first black president of America, listen to the story of Jesus the son of God , listen to the story of Joseph who rose into the position of leadership despite being a victim of slavery, listen to the story of the story of Martin Luther king jnr who fought for freedom and equality, listen to the story of all these great men.  Listen to their defeat and their eventual triumph. These great men have one thing in common, they chose to stand alone.

To be human is to express ones individuality and take a stand for what one believe in. To be human is to have a sense of self, to be human is to have the ability to think, feel, reason and act. To be human is to express ones unique personality. Having a sense of self liberate you from the unreasonable demand of the majority. Being in the majority prevent you from shining and being that human being God really wants you to be. Being in the majority limits your dream as it makes you dwell so much on your defeat and not on possible triumph. Standing alone brings out the light in you. It makes others notice your existence because it make you tap fully your potential. Learn to stand alone and let your voice be heard.

Thanks for reading this article. I dedicate this article to God Almighty who is the source of inspiration and knowledge.

Written by:  Uwagboe Anthonia Peace.